I Depend On Me

There have been times when a few acquaintances and male strangers have said something that i find unacceptable.

"Aiyah, just find a boyfriend and get him to pay for your holiday lah."
"Suruh lah pakwe you bayar."
"I want to marry a rich man so that i can buy all the branded goods in the mall."

All i hear is, "I am a useless woman who cannot make my own money and only know how to spend my boyfriend's money." Excuse me, but i am capable of earning a living too.

It's more than fine with me when a man offers to pay for something... but not all the friggin time, and you don't exploit his wealth - he's a boyfriend, not a bank. I can never wrap my head around the idea of constantly spending a partner's money. Don't they feel useless for not being able to pay for their own unnecessary purchases? If they can afford it but aren't willing to pay for it, don't they feel ashamed for being so selfish?

A relationship is a two-person venture and when you want him to give, you should expect to do the same too. You don't just take. The person who coined the phrase, "His money is my money and my money is my money" is a selfish bitch who will live a miserable life when her man comes to his senses and dumps her sorry ass.